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      05-19-2013, 03:38 AM   #1
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Really Prude GF???

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I've been seeing this girl for 3 weeks
We really hit it off right away and see each other almost every day
I'm only the third guy she has dated, and only the second serious relationship she has been in
She is young, 19, and has been very timid and reserved
She is very inexperienced
She pretty much didn't know how to kiss, tease or caress at all
She was super jumpy when we first started making or when I'd run my fingers up her thigh or kiss her neck. She would basically start giggling and draw back before hugging me to make sure things wouldn't heat up more.
She used to turn scarlet and bury her face in my chest if I'd ever kiss her in public and start whispering that people are watching and it's pornographic

Anyway, things have been going well, she has opened up a lot, and is more passionate with each day, and I really care about her a lot, but I feel like things are moving a bit slow. She's told me she was raised by her grandmother, who is very old fashioned, and I thought it was nice that she respected herself enough not to hook up with anyone right away.

Here are my concerns...
Today I met her two of her best friends. Both of these girls are incredibly slutty. After spending the evening with them I just can't picture my girl as this innocent virgin anymore. This is kind of pissing me off, since I haven't really had to deal with this shy prudish nonsense since like sophomore year of high school. Anyway, now I've gotten it into my head to just ask her if she is a virgin, but I feel like that would be awful. It just seems like a lose/lose since if she says no I will probably be pissed that she doesn't trust me enough to go farther and if she says yes it would come off as incredibly rude and inconsiderate.

It's really starting to bug me now that I met her friends though. Some of my friends have been breaking my balls over this as well, but that didn't bother me. Now I just have this doubt about her hovering over me.
Am I just being an ass by worrying about this? Everything else is really great, but I guess I find her wanting to take things slow as an insult to my ego. I don't doubt that she cares about me or is attracted to me since she has really blossomed since we met, she comes over and cooks, and even writes me love letters.
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      05-19-2013, 03:55 AM   #2
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Bro, i thought you were talking about your M3. JK but it still does not mean she is exactly like her friends. My current gf that i have been dating for a loooong TIME (years) was exactly like yours. Her friends were super slutty and she was not. Cant judge her because of her friends man kinda got to grow some balls and just let it be. you are just going to push her away worrying. Just my two cents and from experience in dealing with chicks like this.
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      05-19-2013, 05:54 AM   #3
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Give her alcohol. That should loosen the tension
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      05-19-2013, 10:46 AM   #4
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      05-19-2013, 11:49 AM   #5
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This is an awkward thread... I was a little devil compared to you at your age so my advice won't help.

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      05-19-2013, 12:37 PM   #6
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Give her alcohol. That should loosen the tension
I was gonna suggest the same thing. Don't get her wasted though, thats immoral and messed up. Just a drink or 2
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      05-19-2013, 12:42 PM   #7
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date her friends?
+2. You're young, have some fun.

And yes...very awkward thread. What, the Martha Stewart forum was too busy to post this over there?
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Nothing says I love you like a dick slap to the face. Try that out. If it doesn't work then you're dating a closet lesbian.
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      05-19-2013, 01:16 PM   #9
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I think you need to loosen up a bit
I suggest you go get a massage with a Happy ending before your dates do that you won't be so worked up and let the relationship take its course if you really like the girl.
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3 weeks isn't enough to determine who a person is. Give it time, you WILL know who she is eventually. If you can't wait to determine, move on. Best of luck
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You guys are all promoting underage drinking
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you do need to give it a little time though
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      05-19-2013, 02:11 PM   #14
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Am I just being an ass by worrying about this? Everything else is really great, but I guess I find her wanting to take things slow as an insult to my ego.
In a word: yes. This drama you're creating out of nothing sounds like something a girl would write. Her wanting to go slow is an insult to your ego? What kind of fragile butterfly are you? You say she's 19 and inexperienced. That comes with the territory. If you want someone more exciting out of the gate because you're too impatient to wait more than three weeks before your girlfriend is down for kama sutra there are plenty of late 20/early 30-somethings out there that will show you a good time; just don't expect them to cook and clean for you until you've given them the ring.
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      05-20-2013, 06:58 AM   #15
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you seem to care, and she seems to be opening up, not like its stuck at the same place. imo let it continue to grow naturally or move on. its all on you, you're young, if you want the serious relationship or not too. her having slutty friends doesn't mean she's a slut.

i'm sure the people on this forum have some non-slut friends after all!
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Ah youth... Gotta Love it... My advice, chill with the whole virgin thing not a big deal IMO, of course I am way older than you and have the benefit of countless years of experience. You WILL laugh about this in the future. Best of Luck
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Three weeks constitutes a serious relationship? Give it time... LOTS of time.
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I don't know why people are suggesting you give an underage girl alcohol so you can have sex with her. That's rape. Three weeks is nothing and she owes you nothing. There is no requirement that a girl has to have sex regardless of how long you have been dating. If you don't like how she is with her body then find another girl or give her time to decide whether she wants to be intimate with you.
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3 weeks isn't enough to determine who a person is. Give it time, you WILL know who she is eventually. If you can't wait to determine, move on. Best of luck
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3 weeks is nothing? If you cant wait, and need to ask her that question instead of trusting what she has told you, you shouldent be in the relationship or own a BMW. Having a BMW means having class, so treat her with respect.
Dont worry about the friends. Do you friends make your who you are? Sex shouldn't be what a relationship is about, if it is, then your missing out on the important part of just having and being with someone who cares about you. Just some things to think about.
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