Get lit wrote Variables, any engine the break in is very important (except for certain race engines, they start their life at redline!), maintenance schedules, climate and conditions it's operated in, how the engine is operated, modified/upgraded performance parts Added, Highway or city operation, quality of fuel that is used, oils that are used, the list can go on.
I'm not trying to get into a pissing match with you. And please don't read my post as if I'm being a dick. I'm just stating my thoughts on this subject. I'm a car guy, love discussing car stuff and sharing my thoughts and also listening to others input and thoughts! If you want to talk more about this subject send me a pm!
I do not feel you are being a dick at all - I like good discussions. All good.
As for the variables you mentioned:
Break-in - bearings do not break in. Also, some professionals suggest engine break-in should be done quickly under load. I have raced a lot of Honda products and every one of my re-built junk yard B16 and B18 engines have been broken in on the track. They all ran strong and lived life bouncing off the limiter. Hell, our latest B18 has 4 24 hour races (~9,000KM) under its belt with 170TKM on the junk yard engine with new rings and bearings (did not touch the head at all).
Maintenance - I agree, proper maintenance is important to every reciprocating engine. That said, if maintenance is such a big deal, then every high revving engine should share the S65/S85 penchant for bearing wear. Unless BMW M owners are just bad at maintenance - which does not seem to be the case typically as we are neurotic car freaks. And the typical issues that I have seen from LCI is sludge buildup in the heads, not bearing damage.
Climate/conditions - Engine oils today can run 250F+ no problems. Also, modern synthetics can still be pumped when very cold. That said, -40 and 10W60 freaks me out (never did that to my M). Why do we not see similar issues with Audi, Porsche, Honda etc.?
Operation - All reciprocating engines share certain fundamentals. Audi, Porsche, Honda, Ferrari, Lamborghini, Bugatti etc. all have to follow the same rules of physics. If high RPM use is detrimental to all high HP NA engines, then we should see similar rod bearing failure rates in other brands with similar HP/L NA engines. (This statement assumes that the engine is not abused, which is different than being driven at high RPM.)
Fuel - this has
almost nothing to do with rod bearing failure. Yes, detonation can cause excessive loads - but - this raises the question: do only S65 and S85 owners use crappy fuel in their high performance engines? Also, the MSS60 would throw some codes if the detonation was really that bad.
Oil - Any good 0W40 or thicker synthetic has been shown to work just fine in the S65 (not sure how the S85 VANOS reacts to thinner oils). Modern synthetic oils are all very very stout and we all typically change the oil WAY more often than needed.
Mods - The S65 can easily run 600+HP and 400+ftlb of torque with a blower. Yes, too much load will eventually break something - but the S65 is pretty stout. Most E9x M3s are not boosted. Given the S65 can accept boost without immediate blowup, this leads me to posit that there exists no NA mods for the S65 that will cause undue stress on the rotating assembly.
Anywhoo, each owner can make their own choice. I am happy I changed mine even though I got lucky and seemed to have adequate clearances.
Happy motoring and keep the revs up. I know I do. Perhaps that is why I average 11MPG... :P